Assertive.

Be assertive…. Teach your children to be assertive.

How to be assertive….. Follow the 5 Rules

Describe  

Explain the detail….. Tell the facts….

 express       your feeling

Empathize  ( Do not know how to explain)

Stand …. Tell what is your stand

Consequence   explain the consequence of your action.

 Personality flows

Non assertive……. People who do not know How to say no/ people will lost faith in you

Aggressive   hurt others with words / aggressive people will not have many friends.

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Advice

if you are bored with your sacred book, follow these things. Idea expressed in a different way.

 

*Make the best of the busyness, craziness, chaos, frustrations and challenges of life and parenthood!
*Live on the AWESOME side!
*STOP taking life SO SERIOUSLY!
*Embrace the INSANITY!
*Focus on the POSITIVE lessons!
*Recognize the BLESSINGS!
*Find the HUMOR whenever possible, and
*CELEBRATE LIFE!

How to become rich/fast

There are many many links in google. You can follow this link and live like a stupid man for ever. When i am stock trading many people comes up with Tips. I politely avoid that. That is big mistake. Never go for the short cuts. Develop your own strategy/ your own game plan. This applies to every aspect of your life. You can learn from others, but you must follow your heart and dreams. Failure is the stepping stone to success.

I see opportunity everyday/ everywhere. it is a great joy to help someone to  chase their dream. Compassion is a word i like very much. I received all my life.I want to be more compassionate and helpful.

Life is a blessing. Friends/family/ everything around you create the spiral of love. Be positive and move forward.

I write blogs to affirm my thinking.

Read Anything

 

That was a serious question!!! Yes I read bits and pieces. Started many books, but some how i cannot complete . I feel irritated. I do not know what i am reading. I am in a whirlwind. like paper piece i float in the air. I curse myself . Why i am not focused ? ( last DEC. i read a book Memoirs of a Gangsters Daughter by Yakuza Moon. A painful read. many times i cry literally, so i am still that boy walking in the green pasture.can we say green pasture!!. i think it is wrong)

I think life is extremely complected in this modern world. Our children’s wold will be more complicated. There is will be few jobs. rich become more rich and poor will eternally poor. But think about the emotional turmoil. I have a book of David Foster Wallace. The last book. He killed himself at the young age.   this is a long paragraph. But really catch that mind. The mind which is floating like a paper, the frustration we all are going through. Try to read this/But not to grasp.

“–and then you’re in serious trouble, very serious trouble, and you know it, finally, deadly serious trouble, because this Substance you thought was your one true friend, that you gave up all for, gladly, that for so long gave you relief from the pain of the Losses your love of that relief caused, your mother and lover and god and compadre, has finally removed its smily-face mask to reveal centerless eyes and a ravening maw, and canines down to here, it’s the Face In The Floor, the grinning root-white face of your worst nightmares, and the face is your own face in the mirror, now, it’s you, the Substance has devoured or replaced and become you, and the puke-, drool- and Substance-crusted T-shirt you’ve both worn for weeks now gets torn off and you stand there looking and in the root-white chest where your heart (given away to It) should be beating, in its exposed chest’s center and centerless eyes is just a lightless hole, more teeth, and a beckoning taloned hand dangling something irresistible, and now you see you’ve been had, screwed royal, stripped and fucked and tossed to the side like some stuffed toy to lie for all time in the posture you land in. You see now that It’s your enemy and your worst personal nightmare and the trouble It’s gotten you into is undeniable and you still can’t stop. Doing the Substance now is like attending Black Mass but you still can’t stop, even though the Substance no longer gets you high. You are, as they say, Finished. You cannot get drunk and you cannot get sober; you cannot get high and you cannot get straight. You are behind bars; you are in a cage and can see only bars in every direction. You are in the kind of a hell of a mess that either ends lives or turns them around. ( from Infinite Jest) Don try to buy this book. you cant read it!!!!

mUst

I should do this work

i should loose weight

i should read this book

i should make more money

i should improve my prayer life

i should improve my family life

Unless This ” should ”  changed to BE A MUST

yOU WILL NOT ACHIEVE ANYTHING.

 

Melecholic

I lived in this state of mind for long time. It gives you a certain kind of pleasure. sad/dark pleasure. being in your own world, saying that Yes I am failure. This is my destiny . Look around people are suffering, dying, Sickness, crying. You are closing one part of your mind. An eternal failure .

Life is not that sad. Now i see the bright side. Smiles around me. Love in different form. Nature and its beauty.

“I go to sleep alone, and wake up alone. I take walks. I work until I’m tired. I watch the wind play with the trash that’s been under the snow all winter. Everything seems simple until you think about it. Why is love intensified by abscence? ”

This is perfect expression of  Melancholic state.

 

Achievements.

This is your Goal.

want to be millionaire.

want to be physically fit

want to be amazingly good.

Your list increases always. Normally if you think about your goal you are kind of depressed/worried. But just think about your last month, last year or last 10 years. It is always in a move. You are grown up as good human being. learned, wise. Financially better ( in my case) . we all are improved in many areas. Reflect on that And congratulate yourself. Be grateful for your life, your achievements and just ignore that monkey chatting mind. It is always want more.

 

quick read

There are times when you want to read few pages fast and reflect. This book is always in my table. Absolute Khushwant . The low – down of life, death and most things in between.

you need models to follow in your life. He was a king and thoroughly enjoyed his self analysis pieces. If you are married this is a best book to Think about your life. Your struggle and monotonous boredom.

“I could never forget her sweet smelling perfumed hair.
Blowing in the air as if God’s winds, were trying to stare.
Her eyes which contact made you frozen,
Put you in a spell that made you swear that you were chosen. “

I

Solitude is beautiful precisely because it’s not always easy or pleasant.

 

i am alone deep inside. There is no One. I think even though it is a painful reality, that is the truth. Every now and then ….. Someone enters and swiftly moved away. I dont blame anyone for that. I like to be alone in deep sorrow. days and months and years gone. There is no end this, even your swaying move or smile break that sorrow.